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Not sure what I’d do. One thing I’d need to do is get rid of a lot of things in my house so someone else wouldn’t have to do that. :-) Thanks for sharing, Aly. Hugs…

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Joanna, if you could just *see* the insane piles of shit I got rid of a few years back after going on a Marie Kondo tear. (Now I'm more about the Minimalists approach, little bits here and there, that add up over time—). Hugs back. <3

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Beautiful and exquisite!! It brought me to tears!! Thank you for sharing ❤️

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Thank you, Stacey <3

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This was beautiful. Gorgeous and thoughtful. So glad I subbed!!

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Thank you for reading and subscribing, Jennifer!

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Thank you for sharing some of your story. I feel like by seeing your strength I am a brought closer to mine. As for the answer to your question, I don’t know what I’d change other than my attitude. Yes, my attitude is what I’d change. I’d release grasping on to things and outcomes and wasting so much energy on striving to be/make things perfect. I’d make more careful choices about what battles I fight. Choosing perhaps only the one or two that have some deep inexplicable meaning to me.

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Grasping is a big one for me, too. I say the serenity prayer about 700 times a day. When it hits, it really makes a difference.

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“my pain won’t kill me, but running away from it might. “ Best line ever! Well written and well said. Cheers!

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Thank you, David! <3

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I always knew you were strong. I clearly didn't know the half of it. And thanks for the challenge questions. It's always good to visit/revisit what's important to you at any age.

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Couldn't agree more, Lee. My answers change all the time. <3

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Oh Aly, that piece is so moving, so brave of you to open up about what your life used to be like. As for your big questions, well I was diagnosed with leukaemia 20 years ago and things changed a year or so later - I left my job (my choice), my wife left me (her choice) and my 85 year old Dad died (nobody's choice).

If I could rewind the clock, I hope I would change myself - but how, that I don't know, apart from lighten up, be less self-absorbed and a heck of a lot more empathetic.

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Oof, Frank. These are big ones. "Lighten up"— yes, when I think back to my 20s on the road, I often wish I'd been kinder to myself, more forgiving. It's something I try to remind myself of right now, so I'm not wishing for those same things 20 years from now. Practice more self-compassion today. I think that's the best we can do.

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